Marriage

I have been hearing a few comments about me getting married recently and I just want to talk about it for a moment.  I recently read an article on my generation and it talks about how we will likely be the most educated of all generations, but with that, we will marry later and have less kids.  I know that I am now 23 and at this age, my parents were married and expecting a child.  I know that getting married is an honorable thing, but doing it for the wrong reasons isn't.  I love Cory but as of now, we know that we have things we want to accomplish and instead of holding each other back, I rather focus on what I want out of life instead of what others expect me to do.

Someone recently questioned my motives for wanting to leave AZ to explore other states.  They couldn't believe that I would want to leave Cory and they didn't understand why I am not married to him now.  I was a little shocked by this conversation.  I mean why should I not do what I want to do because my significant other is in school and we aren't even living together?  It doesn't mean that we can't be together if we are living apart or that we don't want to be together.  This is the time to travel and to live other places.  This is the time in my life I can move easily and try out new things before I become settled.  I have my dogs, but thats nothing like having a husband or a family.  Right now I can do things for me and not have to worry about how that will affect someone else and how it will help or hinder their goals.  Not that I am going to do anything that would hurt Cory, but we both have things we want to do with our lives and there is no reason we should be sacrificing our end goals to do something we aren't craving.

I know if you are married, you probably think of things differently than I do, but I am not there yet.  I know things are different when you are married and people sacrifice a lot and that also happens in other relationships.  At this time in my life, I have no reason to sacrifice.  Not that I won't do stuff for Cory, but he's staying in AZ, he's not moving to China, I am not afraid of flying and being happy with myself should be the #1 priority, not conforming to society or taking our relationship to the next stage just because its that time.

Cory has been nothing but supportive of me figuring out what I want in life and getting out of AZ.  He knows that I am not happy here and even though he would miss being able to drive 2 hours to see me, he knows it's something that I have to do to find my happiness.
A significant other should compliment your life, not be your life.

I'm not going to get married because my friends are doing it.  I'm am not going to wish I could move somewhere else than not be able to because of my husband.  I am not going to regret not spending time with my friends because I was spending all my time with my significant other.  I am not going to look back on my life and know that I had Cory but I was too worried about losing him to live and do what I want to do.

I have Cory and I love him.  If we are meant to get married, then what's the rush?